Perhaps you grew up believing that if you were loving and gentle with yourself, you were being selfish or self-centred. So you learned to be hard on yourself and to have high expectations of yourself (often leading to perfectionism). Perhaps it is even difficult to consider your own needs as legitimate and deserving attention. However, […]
healthy relationships
“Super” Individuals vs. Healthy Individuals
I recently found an article that I had pulled out of a magazine a few years ago that explored the difference between “Super Families” and “Healthy Families.” It is short and to the point, and I love the distinction that it makes between healthy and “super” expectations that crop up in family life. The article […]
I’ve been so hurt in relationships, how can I ever trust again?
It can be very painful when a relationship that was important to you ends. Perhaps you feel angry, betrayed, scared, frustrated, misunderstood, or sad. The pain often feels very intense. It may be accompanied by self-doubt, questioning, depression or anxiety. When you are feeling the pain, you might withdraw – or you might desperately search […]