Perhaps you grew up believing that if you were loving and gentle with yourself, you were being selfish or self-centred. So you learned to be hard on yourself and to have high expectations of yourself (often leading to perfectionism). Perhaps it is even difficult to consider your own needs as legitimate and deserving attention. However, […]
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“Super” Individuals vs. Healthy Individuals
I recently found an article that I had pulled out of a magazine a few years ago that explored the difference between “Super Families” and “Healthy Families.” It is short and to the point, and I love the distinction that it makes between healthy and “super” expectations that crop up in family life. The article […]
Excerpt from Virginia Satir “Self-Worth: The Source of Personal Energy”
Good human relations and appropriate and loving behavior stem from persons who have strong feelings of self-worth. Simply stated, persons who love and value themselves are able to love and value others and treat reality appropriately. Having a strong sense of self-worth is the way to become more fully human, to having health and happiness, […]
Is Counselling A Bad Word?
Have you ever heard someone say, “Counselling is for people who are crazy or weak. You should just be able to get over it and get on with your life.” or “What’s wrong with you? Why can’t you just forget about what happened?” In reality, it takes a lot of courage to admit that you […]
Is the message “I can’t” running your life?
We all have messages inside us that either encourage us and build strength or discourage us and limit our abilities. As humans, we tend to give more weight to negative messages from others than we give to positive messages. We easily tune in to negative, limiting messages (I can’t, I’m not smart enough, I’m not […]